ummm.this is interesting. i need some advice.

[surfergirl16]

I am a Christian. I am 18 and have been praying ever since I was 11 for God to let me know who my perfect mate is. Well, when I was 13 I wrote a list of what I wanted my mate to be. Well, everything that I wrote down on my list matches prefectly a good friend of mine. From the looks, height, personality, and the fact that hes never been kissed and never dated. I didnt have a crush on him when we first started hanging out with him, but now I do. A so-called friend of mine told me that i dont even need to waste my time because the guy already told her that God showed him who he is suppossed to marry. I dont know if I belive her or not, because she would do almost anthing to get me away from him. But, i can tell when she is lying and when she isnt...im kinda sure she wasnt lying. I dont know. I really think that God wants me to be with this boy. I mean, he matches EVERYTHING on the list perfectly! what should i do about this entire situation? if yall can give me any advice please do!

[EyesofanAngel20]

wow! good for you! im glad that you have a potetial list matcher! lol. i would have to say that if i were in this situation to keep praying and asking God to let this guy be the one for you. God can do anything. I will be praying that he and you will hook up soon!

[surfergirl16]

I love your siggy! thats awesome. i also like tinker bell. anyway, how can i ask him if he knows who hes going to marry? like, how can i start a casual conversation about dating and the perfect match?

[Lady]

well, you can ask anyone i know i am not a very straight forward person(am i tink) but i have asked one guy out. even though the guy was completely clueless i was asking him out, i think maybe you should just ask him out to a movie. nothing special,but sometimes a girls gotta take things into her own hands otherwise the guy might not know she likes him. it just could work. ya never know till you try

[surfergirl16]

i am old-fashioned. i dont call boys and i certainly dont ask them out. he is very old fashioned too, except he thinks i should call him. when i talked to him yesterday about going out to a movie or something just as friends, so we could get to know each other (im going to prom with him in may) better, he asked if we could bring other people. i was like freaking out because i dont know what to say to him. i really want to spend time with him, but NOT as a date. what should i do? i really need some advice guys cuz im almost in tears becuase he doesnt want to hang out with me. im not worried about dating him because i dont date. i just dont want to worry with it. Im not someone who thinks that you will go to hell if you date or kiss, but its just my decision right now. i really dont have time to date anyway. i work at my church so i am there all the time and i have school and i teach at the elementary school. i just dont have time for a boyfriend. but i do want to hang out with this guy.

[***chocolateIceCream***]

Well, this is something to take into consideration: from your first post - (and let me be the first to point out, I'm not you and I'm not God, I'm just observing, so don't get angry please) - from your first post, it sounds like you

- asked GOD to tell you who to marry
- wrote down what YOU wanted in a guy
- found a guy who meets YOUR specifications

I think that while he may be a really great guy, perhaps your future husband, even, he isn't necessarily the ONE or the "perfect mate" for you. Seriously, no one is perfect, even for each other.

So, my advice, if I may give it? Relax. Calm down. If he didn't want to get to know you, he wouldn't have asked you to prom or agreed to go to the movies with you. If he doesn't date and doesn't know you that well, maybe he's not comfortable going to a movie alone with you yet.

[Im Not Creative]

wow, i don't know wat happened, everythign i typed just disappeared and it went back to the post!! weird, anyway, as i had just written:

it sounds like you
- asked GOD to tell you who to marry
- wrote down what YOU wanted in a guy
- found a guy who meets YOUR specifications

I agree. If you want God to be a part of this process, you must include him in all the steps. If this guy is the one that God has picked out for you, He will work it out, in his own time. Don't rush it. He will work everything out. If he is the right guy, God will show him that. So for now, don't worry about whether or not you're going to marry him. You're only 18, u still haqve school (if u're planning on going to college) to get through. Remeber, by including God in this process, it will be a lot easier on your part, but not in your time. Okay, i can't remember anything else i had written before or anything else to add right now. please feel free to pm me for anything.

[surfergirl16]

I did write down what I wanted in a guy, but the point of writing the list was so I could let God know what I wanted. It wasn't like "Ok, God, heres who I want and how I want him." If it had been like that I would have married Justin Timberlake *shudders and denys that I ever liked him* I wrote down the list and prayed to God to give me my hearts desire and that I trust His decision for my mate. Anyway, I and the guy are both going to college (different ones tho ) and I could meet someone there who is the right one, but I just thought it was freaky that he met the list PERFECTLY. Well, thanks for the opinions.

[JCsAngelPen]

If it's God's will that you be with him, then you have nothing to worry about. His will is going to happen in your life no matter what, if you keep praying and trust Him.

I would keep seeking what God wants you to do and then follow His guidance. If this guy isn't God's guy for you, then an even better one is in store for you!

[surfergirl16]

thanks! I have been praying very hard that we are ment to be. all I can do is leave it up to Him. Hopefully it won't be too much longer until God sends my prince charming...or until He wakes this guy up.

[lola]

surfergirl16 said:

i am old-fashioned. i dont call boys and i certainly dont ask them out.

That's how it is with me, too.

Anyway, hang out with the guy and get to know him better as a friend. Who knows where your friendship may lead! Let what happens happen. If you two are meant to be together, he'll realize it and ask you out. If not, you can find someone else!