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Post by saleen on Apr 10, 2005 13:40:45 GMT -5
alright well i've got a very important question in my opinion. here, i'm talking about physical cheating. like what would be your idea of cheating? kissing someone who isn't your boyfriend/girlfriend, i would definetly consider cheating but what about smaller stuff than that?
i guess i should be honest here. some of you may have heard somewhat about my problem, where i (woudl say) am in love with my best friend. i ended up introducing him to my cousin, and they've now been going out for 2 months. well yesterday me and Josh (that's the guy) were hanging out at his house and fooling around and stuff. now, we're both very very close. like we tell each other everything. he's someone i can feel so comfortable with, we hug all the time, or he'll just have his arm around me or whatever. no big deal stuff.
anyways, last night it was around 8pm and it was getting kinda chilly and Josh noticed so he came over and put his arms around me to keep me warm and stuff to keep me warmerish. after a while, he started to notice it was getting chilly too. all day he'd been trying to tickle me, but this time when he tried my shirt came up just a little so it was like hands-on-bare-skin sorta. well that ended up evolving later into more of a Josh putting his hand up the back of my shirt and asking me if his hands were cold, and then ticklign me. it wasn't until later that i started to wonder if maybe that was farther than we should've gone.
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Post by EyesofanAngel20 on Apr 10, 2005 17:44:54 GMT -5
even tho me and my best friend arent dating, we do the same stuff. Like, at the last youth trip we went on (in march) we linked arms and walked from the stadium to the busses. I also laid my head on his shoulder when we were waiting for the service to start. Alot of people think we're going out, but were not. Were realllllyyyy good friends. I think that what you and your friend are doing is ok, but dont do it so much and dont make it look like your dating. Esp. in front of his girlfriend. But I completely understand!
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Post by Lady on Apr 10, 2005 19:50:31 GMT -5
even tho me and my best friend arent dating, we do the same stuff. Like, at the last youth trip we went on (in march) we linked arms and walked from the stadium to the busses. I also laid my head on his shoulder when we were waiting for the service to start. Alot of people think we're going out, but were not. Were realllllyyyy good friends. I think that what you and your friend are doing is ok, but dont do it so much and dont make it look like your dating. Esp. in front of his girlfriend. But I completely understand! People think you and Jermey are DATING? who thinks that. are you sure thats not just your wishful thinking?*Laughs evilly cause she knows just got on your nerves*
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Post by Skylarking on Apr 10, 2005 23:06:58 GMT -5
My friend Kirk and I are like that, Brenna, but even more so. People think we're dating all the time. Peers, adults, teachers, everyone. Once someone thought we had a baby, but that's not the point. If I was dating Josh, I don't think I'd be too happy about what you two did, but that's only because you have feelings for him (I have no idea how he feels for you). If you didn't like him at all that way, I'd treat it like this: In almost every hetero relationship here al LV, the girl is all touchy-feely with other girls, while remaining faithful to her boyfriend. Chances are the girl doesn't mean anything by it, and it's not considered cheating.
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Post by EyesofanAngel20 on Apr 11, 2005 9:52:58 GMT -5
evil thy name is mermaid...anyway, at Winter Fest this chic came up to me when Jeremy was asleep and I was laying my head on his shoulder and asked me if we were dating. I was like, no, were best friends. And she was like, AWwwww! Thats so sweet. And I was like, Okaaayyy...anyway, Ashley thought we were going out. She also thought she was going out with philip one day, but shes saddddlllyyy mistaken. Anyway, see u tonight, jojo.
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Post by saleen on Apr 11, 2005 21:54:13 GMT -5
exactlyy. likee...as far as i know nothing was meant by it, so i'd say we're good. but i was talking to my very very good friend Taylor (Melissa's ex of 2 yearrs...) who said Melissa would definetly consider it cheating so i feel bad about that, but meh, it's in the past, if it happens again, it'll have to stop i guess. that or Melissa will have to suck it up lol.
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Post by EyesofanAngel20 on Apr 13, 2005 16:28:15 GMT -5
if she consider's that CHEATING, then shes wacked...no offense, but I couldnt think of a better term. I know I would be a little upset if my boyfriend and another girl were doing that, but I wouldnt get freaked out. I would just have to understand that he and the girl were best friends, and that they had no romantic interest in each otehr what so ever.
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Post by saleen on Apr 14, 2005 15:50:32 GMT -5
he and the girl were best friends, and that they had no romantic interest in each otehr what so ever. thats where the problem is. she knows i like him, i've liked him for 9 months. it's sorta a long story lol.
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Post by Im Not Creative on Apr 17, 2005 14:44:12 GMT -5
she knows that you two are good friends and is ok with that, so it's all good. but you say she also knows that you having feelings for him. if she's not comfortable with ur close relationship and the fact that you like him, that has nothing to do with you. The point is, if he doesn't have any feelings for you, she shouldn't care. I dunno if that makes sense, but basically, she knows about u're close relationship, and since she knows, it's not cheating but it's also not cheating because he (may not) have feelings for you. ok, i think this is getting even more confusing than wen i started...lol so, i'll just end it here, but basically it's not cheating.
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Post by lola on Jun 17, 2005 19:04:51 GMT -5
even tho me and my best friend arent dating, we do the same stuff. Like, at the last youth trip we went on (in march) we linked arms and walked from the stadium to the busses. I also laid my head on his shoulder when we were waiting for the service to start. Alot of people think we're going out, but were not. Were realllllyyyy good friends. I think that what you and your friend are doing is ok, but dont do it so much and dont make it look like your dating. Esp. in front of his girlfriend. But I completely understand! Every time I develop a friendship like that, the guy asks me out, and ruins everything!!! But I'm happy for you, that's awesome.
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